When something is broken, fix it..?


When something is broken, fix it. That’s what we’re always told, isn’t it?

But, what if that isn’t the answer? What if it’s better to cut our losses in search of something better and more rewarding?

If You Have To Force It, Leave It Alone: Not Everyone You Lose Is A Loss

Loss can be one of the most painful feelings to endure but over time, the pain lessens and our eyes are opened to the fact that we don’t actually need that person anymore.

It might not seem like it at the time, but good things end so great things can happen.We, as individuals, have the mental capacity to judge who has a positive impact on our lives, meaning someone can only be defined as a loss if we choose to define them as one.


Regardless of the circumstances, everything happens for a reason. Even though it might not seem like it at the time, there’s an explanation as to why that person isn’t in our lives anymore.

It might bring sadness, heartache and regret, but each loss takes us on a journey which makes us stronger.

Picking up the pieces, planting a smile on our faces and finding comfort in the fact that things will get better is the first step toward learning to be truly happy on our own. Because, what’s the point in wasting our time and energy on people who aren’t worthy ?

And we need to stop worrying, and believe that things will be okay in the end. If things aren’t okay, it’s not the end.

If someone doesn’t treat us how we deserve, we shouldn’t accept their behavior just because it’s what we think we deserve. We don’t have to settle.

People have an unhealthy habit of hurting the ones closest to them, but we can choose not to fall victim to that. We don’t have to deal with being in a constant state of angst or worry.

Our bodies pick up vibrations, and if something deep inside us says something isn’t right about a situation or a person, we need to trust it. Acting on gut feeling and intuition instead of emotion and persuasion is the best way to decide who can stay and who needs to go.

While it’s hard to accept that not everyone who enters our life is meant to stay, we as human beings are built to encounter new people. We’re designed to explore, discover and grow, and not be held back by people who don’t have the same capacity as us.

So when we feel like we’re falling apart, we need to remind ourselves how that person made us feel. Not when we were naively content, but when we were aching  and confused.

Life is too short to be anything but happy, so we need to learn to surround ourselves with people who matter. We either grow with, or grow apart from people, and if it doesn’t feel right, it might be best to let it go.

People will become strangers and distant memories, but we don’t ever have to feel guilty about removing toxic people from our lives.

Nobody has the right to infect us with negativity and doubt. There will come a point in life when we’ll get tired of having to prove ourselves and we’ll get bored of trying to fix things.

It’s not giving up; it’s realizing we deserve more. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with putting ourselves first for once, and the sooner we do that, the better.

Because, after all, our broken moments don’t define us. It’s how we deal with them that does.


Don’t wander away from yourself




After a while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul and you learn that love doesn t mean leaning ,and company doesn t always mean security.

And you learn that kisses aren’t contracts ,and presents aren’t promises .

And you begin to accept your defeats with your head up and your eyes ahead ,with the grace of a woman , not the grief of a child.

And you plan to build all your roads for today ,because tomorrow’s ground is too uncertain for plans ,and the future has a way of falling down in  mid flight.

After a while you understand that even sunshine burns if you get too much.

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul ,instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.

And you learn to endure, to get stronger.

You learn what you’re worth, and you learn, you learn, with every goodbye ,you learn even more.

Don’t wander away from yourself, just to get close to someone else.






You are your home..



Your body,who you are, is the only house you will ever truly own, your greatest treasure.

Maybe it has some broken windows ,and there are  some tear- stains on the floor .

Maybe you lock some things you’re ashamed of, behind some doors , but hey , there’s wisdom on its bookshelves, and a laugh to light the rooms.

There’s a vase upon the table ,where all the love you grew blooms day by day.

Dreams sit in the balcony ,ready to fly .

The kindness and the empathy are in the usual place, but there’s no time  to  collect dust, because you use them so often.

So don’t look at mansions ,with envy in your eyes .

There’s more to make a home,than its appearance or its size.

Your body is your shelter, so you deserve to love it all.

Don’t let the world stay round outside and tell you how to paint your walls. Don t let them redecorate or tell you what paintings you should put on.

Just feel lucky that you have a place to protect you from the night and the dark.

And if there’s cracks left from the past ,well ..then they just let in more light.


Fireflies going through my mind..



Innocent pink , magnolias , sunny weather and a little wind.

And friends, and deep conversations about stuff.

Stuff like relationships ,lifepurposes, future ,goals and wishes .

Today was about those, and it felt good.

It wasn’ t just about those things, but the feeling mostly ..

Spring  is about fresh beginings ,white flowers ,  new chances , new plans , secrets, people,  adventures and sweet scents.

It’s that time when even problems and bad things don’t seem that big or hard to get through.

It’s one glimpse more of positivity and harmony.

It’s a new pact with the universe about an old promise taken again into account.

About giving your best .

About sharing and caring more.

And a sweet smile thinking and planning all of it.




It’s one day, or day one, you choose..


Azi esti tanar, viata iti surade , timpul e de partea ta, inca nu ti-a declarat razboi, inca nu ai pierdut razboiul.Esti inca in putere, dornic de toti si de toate. Si parca nu se mai termina, parca ai impresia ca mereu va fi asa. Iar daca iti trece prin cap vreun gand ancorat in realitate ,cum ca nu va fi asa mereu, il ignori cu desavarsire; nu face bine la psihic si intri in starea de negare.

Avem curaj uneori sa acceptam totusi ca  timpul nu e nelimitat si nu e la discretia noastra. Si te gandesti..

Cum ar fi, ca in fiecare dimineata sa te trezesti cand rasare soarele, nu la 8-9 (sau mai tarziu), sa savurezi o cafea aromata, zambind si planificand toate activitatile pe ziua respectiva? Sa iti faci o lista cu ce faci azi si la sfarsitul zilei sa ai satisfactia si implinirea ca ai bifat macar 80% din lista ?

Sa stii ca azi ai facut un lucru bun , sau un lucru important pentru tine, pentru ceea ce reprezinti tu ca individ inzestrat cu capacitatea de a alege, sa simti ca esti mandru de tine, sa iti creasca stima de sine macar cu 1 procent , sa vizualizezi viitorul mai clar si cat mai in favoarea ta, a viselor tale?

Este o alegere! Nu o intamplare, nu vine de la sine. Tu alegi cum iti petreci fiecare zi in parte.

Alege azi! Nu maine. Pentru ca maine se va transforma usor usor in ‘niciodata ‘ sau in ‘rar’, sau in ‘poate’ ..

Iar regretul va fi pe masura alegerilor.

Cum ar fi, sa poti influenta in bine macar 1 persoana pe zi ? Sa deschizi ochii cuiva care ii deschide rar si greu, sa ajuti pe cineva caruia ii este greu pe cont propriu, sau sa zambesti doar pentru ca persoanele dragi tie, iti zambesc inapoi ?

Pentru ca asta conteaza cu adevarat de fapt.

Cand moare cineva in jurul tau si mergi pe ultimul drum cu el/ea, nu te gandesti ce costume dragute purta, sau ce rochii si pantofi frumosi avea sau  ce parfumuri scumpe.

Iti aduci aminte cum te-a influentat persoana respectiva,si ce amprenta ti-a lasat .Daca te-a tratat cu amabilitate sau cu rautate, te-a invatat ceva util sau nu , te-a invidiat sau te-a ajutat, te-a sustinut la nevoie sau te-a dezamagit? Asta lasi in urma de fapt ca om-o amprenta psihologica cu ramuri concrete sau cu rani adanci.

It’s one day, or day one, you choose..




You will find yourself again..


It’s okay..
For the past years, all you ever try to do is to figure out how you’ll go about your life. You think that almost everyone around you has figured out theirs, and you’re just there, trying not to mess up with whatever you have.
You think you’re already doing it right and then for whatever reason, something comes up and you start to blame yourself for it. You know you should have done better, you should have handled it differently, but then again, of course, you would think that you didn’t.

I know you’re just scared. You’re scared because you think you’re never good enough. You’re scared because you see other people your age already doing well and you’re not even halfway good. You’re scared because you think about what others will say about you. You’re scared to end up failing. You’re scared that once they see how much of a failure you are, people will start to leave you, even those who once believed in you. You’re scared, and I understand.

So if you feel like crying right now, it’s okay, go ahead and cry. I know you feel like a mess at this moment, but hey, everyone messes up sometimes. So hon, it’s okay to feel lost. Because I know you’ll eventually find your way out. It’s okay if right now you feel like you’re not the person you’re supposed to be, because I know that you’ll figure it out one day.

And you’ll see that the people who love you never lost their faith in you.

So at it this point, I am asking you to not give up—never. Your heart may feel heavy right now and your mind may have thousands of thoughts inside, but you have to keep going. You have to, no matter how scary and much of a struggle it may be. I am proud that you found the strength to read this because that means that you’re trying to tell yourself that you can do this through all of these words. So if there are times that you feel like you’re about to just turn around and give it all up, remember this: You are not a failure. You are on your way.
You’ll be proud of yourself someday.

Dear stranger ,



If you stay, stay forever.
If you go, do it today.
If you change, change for better.
And if you talk, make sure you mean it.
And if you love ?..
Well, damn it.. Then pour your whole soul into it, and mind and spirit and every cell of your body.

I’m talking about assuming the entire you.
Not just the better you, but the worst too.
Every ounce of your mind filled with dark, selfish, unexplanable thoughts and feelings.
Be straight.
People respect straightness, even if they don t like to admit it sometimes.
And don’t tell me you don’t need respect, because you know we all do.

Close your eyes to old ends and open your heart for new begginings.

Never forget that walking away from something unhealthy is brave ,even you stumble a little on your way out the door.
Never forget that sometimes , you just gotta let people  do the lame shit they do.

Choose that inner place where peace is the priority and negativity doesn’t exist, and stop looking for happiness in the same place you lost it.

Remember- the soul always knows what to do to heal itself, the challenge is to silence the mind.

You have this one life. How do you wanna spend it?  Regretting ?Questioning ? Hating yourself ? Running after people who who don’t see you?

Be brave. Believe in yourself. Do what feels good. Take risks. You have this one life.

Be wonderful and make a difference!